Someone's sexuality is their business.Since it doesn't matter, then you don't have to know, and judging prematurely can only create problems. This piece of information should not have any impact on how you think of him or how you interact with him. Another important thing to remember is that it's not very important whether or not he's gay. Even if he is gay, that should not inform your opinion of him.This is why it's better to ask or just see how things develop between you, rather than just decide for yourself. If you're trying to figure out if your friend is gay because you want to date him (as a woman), it's important to remember that just because he might be interested in men doesn't mean he's not interested in women. Being interested in men does not mean he's not interested in women.For example, his family may be violently homophobic and by deciding that he's gay, you may out him by accident by treating him different or implying something without meaning to. By 'outing' them, even to yourself, you may be putting them in danger. You may want to know if your friend is gay, but there may be a good reason why they're staying closeted. People have good reasons to stay closeted sometimes.
